Wait, so if I’m under the age of consent then what happens if I have consensual sex with someone else who is also under the age of consent?
Well, in some states then technically both of you have broken the law.
But jaywalking is also against the law and people do that all the time.
The point I’m making is that unless someone goes out of their way to bring you and your boo to court, you’re safe to continue doing whatever you two are doing.
So if you’re a little lost, think of it this way: Romeo and Juliet laws are in place to protect teens and young adults within a certain age range from getting in trouble just because they’re getting it on.
One thing that sucks about these provisions, however, is that some less progressive states or countries make sure that Romeo and Juliet laws don’t apply to same-sex couples. But if I was hooking up with, say, my soccer coach or something then– Yeah, going to protect your (creepy) coach in that case. Because like I said earlier the law also acknowledges power play.
Statutory rape is probably–no, definitely–the most controversial topic for you, our readers.
Yeah, it’s such a faux pas to link to Wikipedia, but they have an extensive list of the age of consent in every single country/state/territory on the planet so there you go.Every time we write about it we get a ton of comments claiming that we’re being unfair, that we don’t believe in true love and that we’re old fuddy duddies who aren’t getting any.Well, I can assure you, we’re none of those things, but we are definitely young women who are trying to look out for y’all.Love is love, but laws are laws and sketchy is sketchy.When it comes to statutory rape, sometimes there’s a shade of gray that makes things complicated, but we’re going to try to keep it real. If you’re underage you can’t consent to having sex. It’s not necessarily the violent rape you’re probably thinking of, but it’s still a form of rape.Isn’t it sort of stupid for a law to determine how old I have to be to consent to sex? Everyone matures at different ages; some 16-year-olds are more mature than 20-year-olds and are able to make smarter decisions about sex than their elders, that’s true.But one of the best ways to understand why statutory rape laws are in place is to look outside of how mature you think you are and think about things a little more generally.Imagine if your little bro or sis was getting hit on by their teacher. If you’re 28 and dating a 22 year old, there is way less of a huge maturity difference.If you’re 15 and dating someone who is 25, however, you’re also at very different stages of life.Basically, Romeo and Juliet laws reduce or terminate the penalty of statutory rape in cases in which the age difference between two sexually active and consenting partners–one above and one below the age of consent–is very minimal.This means that some statutory rape laws exclude situations where the age difference fits a particular time frame, like if the older partner was less than three years older than you, or if you were over a certain age–say, 14–when you two had sex.