The women who broke free of the caste system did it in their 20s, in university, and I missed the boat with them.
I’m regular brown and proud of it, so I chose the “wheatish” category.I’d say 95 per cent of guys who send me messages are not Canadian.Many of them are from Pakistan, and I’ve received interest from people as far away as the Fiji islands. In those cases, I don’t express interest back, because there’s no point if the guy isn’t in the same city or is just trying to marry for residency status. The site asks you to enter a phone number when you’re setting up the profile, so the site’s staff can verify that you are who you say you are.I’ve told them to start looking at girls here in Canada or in the U. My friends, mostly the Indian ones, know about Shaadi, and they aren’t surprised I’m using it. But other people think it’s strange that my parents are so involved.I don’t see why it’s a big deal that they set up a matrimonial page for me.They set up my profile and described me as a kind-hearted person, working in Toronto, born and raised in Canada, with good family values, well-liked by everyone and known to be very down-to-earth.The description is short, so I didn’t object to anything.I thought that was just a security measure, but because the privacy settings are so difficult to navigate, without my realizing it my phone number was posted on my profile.Some guy called me and said, “I don’t know what your name is but this is your handle on Shaadi.” He seemed sketchy—he was calling from an unknown number, and he insisted that we keep talking.At first, I rejected everyone they sent my way because they had only selected girls who are in India.I don’t want to date someone from India; the cultural difference is too big.