Most people didn’t choose their partners; it was ‘broxenia’, the system where relatives or friends chose a suitable partner for their loved ones.According to anonymous matchmaker, it isn’t a bad idea.And to the women to try and take it as a compliment if a guy approaches you, enjoy the attention and be responsive, smile; it takes a lot of courage for some one to approach.” Matchmaker suggests “go on a second date because the first time there’s nerves.This first impressions last thing is just not right, it’s a cliché.You need a general level of awareness of your behaviours.
They make a move with difficulty and feel strange and embarrassed starting a conversation.
This can be responding to touch, gestures, phone calls, messages of any kind.
So once a person has figured out what makes them tick then there are some dating tips from the professionals.
You need to be able to see this on yourself if you want to improve yourself,” says Kofterou.
An anonymous source who ran one of the first off-line professional matchmaking services in Cyprus (hosting 200 clients on her books) adds “people are afraid of opening up to each other and being vulnerable because of the gossip level”. These judgements and out dated expectations within society start with grandparents, then parents and now people do it to each other within their own generation in order to fit in explains Kofterou. If they are not ticking off the boxes, they get depressed and will judge you. Of course we’re not going to approach each other and date, we’re far too busy being threatened and distancing ourselves from each other.” Unfortunately, these narratives in people’s heads, clash with the times. In the past, relationships were organised and the ‘narrative’ was accepted.