’ Once, I met a guy whilst travelling and it wasn’t until we were on a flight to another country together that I realised I’d never asked how old he was. I almost spat out my drink but then thought, ‘Why does knowing how many years he’s lived on this earth age change anything?
’ It’s the same with platonic friends too – while working in Sri Lanka, my closest friend was nine years younger than me, and it wasn’t a problem.
‘I currently have a boyfriend who is seven years younger than me, and so far so good.
‘I think younger guys are more fun and more adventurous than guys my age, plus they tend to have nicer bodies and a fresh/positive attitude to life!
She was mature for her age and I was immature for my age. There’s also this misconception that older guys are better in bed. Unless you’re dating 16-year-olds (not recommended unless you’re also a teen), chances are the guy you’re sleeping with will have had a fair amount of experience and if your bodies work together, your bodies will work together.
I once got with a 37-year-old who had absolutely no idea what he was doing down there.
How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.
I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating.
I think the record so far is the 74-year-old who said he could have his daughter pick him up at the nursing home and bring him into the city if I were willing to meet for coffee. Your last line is telling, though, and hints at the broader trend. Unfortunately, it seems that all the men my age only want much younger women, which leaves me with the 20-somethings who think “MILF” is an appropriate subject line and write messages about being “into older women,” and the aforementioned geriatric (or borderline) set. If everyone is looking downstream, age-wise (except the few who have a “kink” for older types), where does that leave those of us who really are looking for a peer? Should I adjust my objectives to what the market has to offer?Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.Why have we let our gender be tarnished with this lie for so long? When some girls were having sex, I hadn’t even started my period.I tend to meet guys while I’m away travelling/working overseas and most of them are younger than me, but age really isn’t as big of a deal when you’re travelling as it is back home.Nikki, 33 agrees: ‘I pretty much only date younger men now, which I think is to do with my lifestyle choices of travelling and doing seasonal work.You’re done with the bar scene and you’re very much interested in settling down to have a family of your own. Well, if you’re born in 1971, you’re part of Generation X. Your friends are buying their first houses and having their first kids. Maybe he’ll still be vigorous enough to keep up with your active lifestyle. Next, since you can’t convince someone to date an older man, stop trying.And then you, the 36-year-old woman, post your profile, and what happens? It doesn’t stop older men from writing, but at least you don’t have to explain yourself to a man who doesn’t want to hear your perfectly valid explanation. But you must understand that any woman you desire online has choices. She can go out with a cute, successful man who is 35. To find out who IS interested, try Match.com’s Reverse Match.You get BOMBARDED by emails from fifty and sixty something Baby Boomers looking to trade up in the world. Yet these men keep on writing – talking about how they’re young for their age, how they’d love to have children, how they have everything in life except a good younger woman. Understand, Dale, there is nothing wrong with you being attracted to a fertile and youthful woman in her 30’s. Instead of searching through hundreds of thirtysomething women who wouldn’t give you a second look, Reverse Match shows you who IS open to dating a 56-year-old man.You double check your profile to see if there’s something you wrote that’s attracting these older men. If you’re 36, you’re pretty darned confused by these emails. By the time the kid is in high school, Dad will be 74! There’ll be fewer numbers, but at least you won’t be wasting your time. There are a lot of amazing ones out there and they are criminally underappreciated.Raff, 27 (who’s in a longterm relationship with someone a year and a half older) points out a major flaw in some older woman/younger man partnerships, from his previous experience.‘Women have a biological clock that they need to live by if they want to have kids and stuff,’ he told uk.