Similarity: Within this motive, participants “believed people engage in workplace romances because of the similarities they uncover by being with coworkers in a comfortable environment.” As one person recounted: “I think it’s the similarity rather than initial physical attraction.” Another participant explained: “If you find that there are similarities or an attraction of some sort and you’re around them a lot, I think it’s very understandable that those things can eventually evolve into something romantic.” 4.The Hook-Up: As the name indicates, some workplace romances are driven by the desire to have a physical relationship.A participant described: “One three letter word: sex.” Another explained: “It is purely physical and it could go on forever as both people are willing participants.” Throughout the years researchers speculated the individuals likely engaged in workplace romances for more than one motive; our findings support this early speculation.Interestingly, our interviews asked participants about their own workplace romances as well as those romances of their colleagues.We identified four motives that appear to drive workplace romances: 1.Time: As individuals spend a lot of time together at work, it is only natural that relationships develop.Those who enter into workplace romances should be aware of the workplace implications and challenges that such relationships present. These challenges can, and should be, managed – and it is my opinion that most HR professionals and organizations should work harder at better equipping their offices to manage and understand workplace romance.
A participant explained: “You’re spending from -7 a.m.When discussing the hook-up motive, individuals regularly attributed others’ romances to that motive but never their own workplace romance. All romantic relationships are complicated, but office romances present unique challenges in that you spend more time with your coworker/romantic partner and need to, simultaneously, manage the perceptions of other coworkers. This type of situation can lead to poor performance, increased absenteeism, workplace drama and a possible hostile work environment.Also, workplace romance rarely, if ever, stays between two people.A workplace romance is considered a relationship that occurs “between two members of an organization where sexual attraction is present, affection is communicated, and both members recognize the relationship to be something more than just professional and platonic” (Horan & Chory, 2011, p. Beyond the 47% involved, about 20% indicated they were receptive to an office romance. Statistics indicate that anywhere from 40-47% of employees surveyed had been involved in a workplace romance.People inherently understand and are attracted to others who “understand” that part of their life.”Another draw of getting involved with a co-worker is the excitement coupled with the “safety” of dating somebody you’ve already gotten to know.Gregg Ward, Workplace Consultant puts it this way: “There are a lot of “creeps” (both men and women) out there in the world; dating and falling for someone you work with is a lot easier/safer than trying to meet someone in clubs, bars, etc.Follow me on Twitter @therealdrsean for relationship commentary/links, complaints about mass transit, and support for WVU Athletics. Continue to follow this blog for future entries about deception, online dating, using affection to lie, workplace romance, and other issues that make obtaining and retaining a mate oh so interesting.