Your time together is likely to be marked by a lack of genuine interest in anything other than him/herself.For example, you could get late-night calls when he or she is distraught, excited, or wants something but similar calls from you may not even be answered.But chances are, once you bit in you were quickly disappointed. That is what a relationship with a narcissist is like. Their presence is magnetic and he or she seems larger than life.They are intelligent, charming, and popular, and when they’re the center of attention, some of the spotlight shines on you too, leaving you glowing with pride, importance, and accomplishment.You may come to find out that the stories are exaggerated (or altogether false), their confidence is artificial and fragile, and his or her need for attention may trump good judgment or others’ needs.Because narcissists deeply lack self-esteem, almost everything else in their lives is orchestrated to hide their weaknesses and give them a temporary sense of power and success.
Nothing you say can convince the narcissist that you’re not making intentional and irrational attacks against him or her.
A relationship with a narcissist is unlikely ever to reach greater depths of sharing, emotion, and intimacy.
A narcissist is likely to spend time with you when it suits his or her emotional, physical, or sexual needs, and dismiss or ignore your needs, desires, and preferences.
If you can’t rely on yourself to figure out who to trust, you may find yourself playing too safe and missing out on opportunities to meet really genuine people.
Here are the top 10 suggestions to help you know when you have the trust green light and when it’s a no-go red.