Maybe everything is fine over text, but if your date seems way less interested in your life than he was on the first few meet-ups, he might be getting ready to ghost. “He is no longer engaged in conversation or previously shared interests.And while his behavior is noticeably different, if he is confronted, he denies that anything is wrong,” says Teresa Solomita, a psychoanalyst and relationship Therapist in NYC.This can be the sign of some serious co-dependency or the precursor to a ghosting.” “Narcissists are only in relationships for what they can get out of them,” says Hokemeyer.
By listening for certain language cues, you can get a heads up.
On the bright side, you’re probably saving yourself some energy by ending things with a guy who does this, as it’s a clear indicator he has issues with direct communication.
“Men who are checking out on you and on the verge of disappearing for good tend to be unable to simply tell the truth: ‘I’m just not that into you,’” explains Oliver.
“I know most people don’t want to hear this, but it’s true,” says Sara Paules, an attachment, relationship, and sex therapist in Austin, TX.
If you feel like you’re getting ghosted all the time, it could be that you’re going after the wrong types of guys.