I had to gently tell her there was nothing I could do. But we were told there was something to be considered first. Turned out, R wanted someone younger, a woman in the 35-36 age group, to be more exact. “He is very keen on having children,” my friend was told.Aparna and her family have tried matrimonial sites as well as informal word-of-mouth match-making. So his family, who is in the process of “looking out” for him, felt that a woman over 40 was simply “too old” for their eligible bachelor.“Let me be honest, I've only used the apps for fun, not to seriously pursue a relationship,” he says.He is also skeptical and wary of contacting women online. And personally, when I am lonely, I'd rather travel and pursue some hobby, instead,” he tells me.A couple of months ago, Aparna, a friend of mine, called me up. Aparna is an extremely attractive, well-groomed divorcee in her late 30s. So, with the best of intentions, I suggested that she try out a popular singles network in Bangalore. So, her call was to beg me to use my “influence” (as a media professional) and get her in, somehow. These two successful, sophisticated individuals seemed perfect for each other, or so we thought. “They told me I was too old to be an eligible single,” she recalls. Recently, another friend of mine tried to do some match-making — she wanted P, a 40-year-old corporate honcho of my acquaintance to meet R, a 45-year-old family friend of hers who was back in India after a long stint abroad.“But even if I wasn't and even if it (the relationship) doesn't work out, I don't plan on using the apps. And unfortunately, older men are deemed more eligible than older women. “Given that he is rich, reasonably good-looking, well-read... Trust me, there are many 30-plus women — or younger — ready to land such a catch,” she points out, wryly.
Jayapal, meanwhile, is in a relationship at the moment. So I'd rather take my chances and go the old-fashioned way and hope to meet someone. And while apps may help with dating and more, these don't really make a difference when it comes to marriage.The apps are practically her only way of connecting with interesting guys. And I don't have any other single (read, eligible) friends,” she points out.While Supriya hopes for marriage and not mere flings, on her profile she states that she is open to meeting men four years younger or older. As usual, men outnumber women, and so the three of us stake out our ground and make a tight circle near the bar.There's the assortment of over-eager stags, single guys out to pick up women.Does this mean that even in an era of mushrooming dating apps, elite matrimonial websites, and singles-only networks, when it comes to marriage or “settling down” as we so quaintly term it, age matters? To find out, I asked some random friends and their friends — single, eligible men and women in the 29 to 40-plus age group.Many did not want to reveal their real names for various personal reasons. Given that we live in an age of multiple dating apps — Truly Madly.com, Ok Cupid, Woo, Thrill, Tinder, — you'd be right in assuming that people of all ages (especially in the metros) do use the apps.It is entirely your call if you want to engage in a conversation — or more,” she points out. I asked Vikram Venkat (*), a media professional in his 40s who readily admitted that he is lonely.He has just moved into a new city on work, and has no social life or circle there.A ticking biological clock adds a new dimension to the whole loneliness syndrome, she says.And dating as you grow older, is brutal, in her opinion.